When The Ex Is No Longer Our Type

A few months ago, I had drinks with an ex-boyfriend of sorts, let’s call him Dan. Ex’s can be dangerous territory because there’s a familiarity that is oh-so enticing, as well novelty, because we haven’t seen them in while. Some things have changed and some things feel like an old pair of jeans that fit in all the right places. Dan and I had a really nice night. Surprisingly, some of the changes we’ve experienced seemed to converge. We’ve both experienced a dramatic shedding of societal burdens and with that the liberation and sometimes scary self-redefining that takes place. But, I really wasn’t into it. I felt like I was looking at an old version of myself. Not that that …