3 Rules for Casual Dating (If You Don’t Want to Fall in Love with EVERYONE)

At some point in our dating lives, we all must undergo a rude awakening: We can fall in love with anyone. This push-pull of falling for someone we KNOW is wrong for us is the tension Mark Manson talks about in his blog, “F* Your Feelings.” His basic premise is that emotions stem from our choices, and our choices are based on one of two motivations: The Choice feels good. The Choice is something we believe to be good or right. When a choice is based on both of those motivations, sweet! When these two things don’t align, though, cognitive dissonance arises, and our brain does everything it can to rectify it. [[Cognitive dissonance: “a situation involving conflicting attitudes, beliefs …


Decision Paralysis + Codependency: When My Emotions Depend on Your Emotions

This week has been a metaphorical ringer. Work stress. Relationship stress. Family stress. Home stress. STRESS STRESS STRESS! You know those weeks where you wake up every morning in a panic like you’ve dropped the ball on something major? If you didn’t know – I do not preach meditation because I’m oh so peaceful, I preach meditation because I’m pretty sure it’s already saved me from early onset high blood pressure. A huge struggle this week has been the need to make important choices amidst difficult circumstances. The reason choices are so hard, particularly during stressful seasons, is because there’s often not a right or wrong answer. Most choices come with a slew of positive and negative repercussions that need …


How Awkward First Dates Are a Path for Growth

These past few years have been a motor speedway of personal growth, the conduit being not only a ton of therapy but also destiny-driven personal interactions that left serious imprints. One date in particular was rather surreal, mostly because I was immediately uncomfortable sitting there. This date reminded me of pain from past relationships. I, unknowingly, had written off traditionally religious guys, associating similar traits to being hurt in the same ways I had been before. My subconscious mind kept me safe from those kinds of guys, protecting me from ever being like that again. The hour we sat there became weirdly healing as this guy began to disprove every assumption I placed on him. I thought a traditionally religious …