3 Rules for Casual Dating (If You Don’t Want to Fall in Love with EVERYONE)

At some point in our dating lives, we all must undergo a rude awakening: We can fall in love with anyone. This push-pull of falling for someone we KNOW is wrong for us is the tension Mark Manson talks about in his blog, “F* Your Feelings.” His basic premise is that emotions stem from our choices, and our choices are based on one of two motivations: The Choice feels good. The Choice is something we believe to be good or right. When a choice is based on both of those motivations, sweet! When these two things don’t align, though, cognitive dissonance arises, and our brain does everything it can to rectify it. [[Cognitive dissonance: “a situation involving conflicting attitudes, beliefs …


Decision Paralysis + Codependency: When My Emotions Depend on Your Emotions

This week has been a metaphorical ringer. Work stress. Relationship stress. Family stress. Home stress. STRESS STRESS STRESS! You know those weeks where you wake up every morning in a panic like you’ve dropped the ball on something major? If you didn’t know – I do not preach meditation because I’m oh so peaceful, I preach meditation because I’m pretty sure it’s already saved me from early onset high blood pressure. A huge struggle this week has been the need to make important choices amidst difficult circumstances. The reason choices are so hard, particularly during stressful seasons, is because there’s often not a right or wrong answer. Most choices come with a slew of positive and negative repercussions that need …


How To Tell When You’re Saying Yes To Your Worth and NO to Boundary-Stomping Jerks

This year, I’ve met a number of flighty, unreliable types. They chat you up, and they’re super flirtatious. It kinda feels like they create chemistry with everything. Initially, all your warning signs are screaming, “f*** boy/girl, stay away,” but then you find out the guy/girl is kind of creative, or they say something to make you feel special, and you’re in. One date couldn’t be so bad, right?! They ask you on a date (sort of). They don’t really set a time, or a day, and then they text you around the time you sort of agreed on but never finalize plans. A MILLION RED FLAGS. A. MILLION. I know this is a little sad, but the old Ilsa would …