Making Peace with Loneliness During the Holidays Pt. 2

Last year I wrote Emotional Loneliness + The Holidays and it was one of my most read articles. This might be because family is one of those topics we always come back to, and the love/hate pulls are so strong. While last year I was very (proudly!) single and in a stable job, this year I’m in transition between cities and jobs, and I brought home a partner I’m just crazy about. What I found this year was that despite my relationship status, regression to a less mature version of myself around family is definitely going to happen, and honestly, having a partner doesn’t change the inner child triggers that flare up. To quote last year’s article, this regression stems …


Emotional Loneliness + The Holidays

I’d like to propose the hyper-awareness of singleness during the holidays actually has nothing to do with wanting a romantic partner and everything to do with the odd loneliness that often accompanies longer periods of time with family. Tonight I am in the throes of loneliness, and for all logical reasons, I have no business being lonely. On a day off from a rather stressful workload, I spent an entire day with family members who love me and know me better than most. We ate, drank, and there were even dogs involved. What makes loneliness more poignant during the holidays is exactly because we are around people who are supposed to know us best, and often it feels like they …